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Would you rather questions for couples: 48 cards you can cut out and play tonight
Forty-eight would you rather questions for couples, sorted by where you are: the car, the dinner table, an evening when you are planning a date, an hour on a video call. Print them as a deck, play by rules that keep score, and the game survives past the fifth card.
Page one of the deck: six rules, four themes, two blank cards.
In short
A round works like this: draw a card, read both choices out loud, and let your partner guess your answer before you give it. A right guess wins the card, and the first person to keep ten cards picks the next takeout. The guessing is what turns a list of questions into a game.
The cards are grouped by where you are, because a long drive and a dinner table ask for different questions. Start with the light group and let the questions get more personal: tasks that escalated that way beat small talk for closeness in a 1997 study (Aron et al.). Print the deck, cut it once, keep it in the glove box.
How to play the would you rather game for couples
These six rules are printed on the first page of the deck, word for word, so nobody has to remember them.
- Cut out the cards and shuffle them into one deck.
- Take turns drawing a card and reading both choices out loud.
- Before you answer, your partner guesses which one you will pick.
- Right guess: your partner keeps the card. Wrong guess: it goes under the deck.
- The first to keep 10 cards chooses the next takeout.
- There are no wrong answers, only good follow-up questions.
Rule three is the one that makes this a couples would you rather game. Your partner has to think about you while you think about the card, and a won card is a score both of you can see on the table.
Three things the printed rules leave to you. Five cards is a round, which ends the game while you both still want one more. “Neither” and “both” are not answers; a card you refuse goes under the deck and comes back another night.
Ask “why” once per round, on the card that surprised you. Ask it after every card and the game turns into an interview.
The order of the cards matters as much as the cards. Over a 45-minute session in a 1997 study, pairs of strangers worked through tasks that escalated in intensity, and came out closer than pairs who spent that time on small talk. Source: Aron et al., Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 1997
What makes good would you rather questions for couples
A card works when both choices pull at you. If you can answer before your partner finishes reading, there was no question on the card, only a preference you both already knew.
That is what separates relationship would you rather questions from trivia. “Pancakes or tacos” gets a shrug. “A long weekend at the beach or a long weekend in the mountains” can fill a whole drive, because both weekends are real and you only get one.
Cards 16 and 19 are built that way, and most of the cards here were written to that rule.
Three ways a card breaks
- No contest
- “A million dollars, or a free coffee?” One side wins before the sentence ends. Raise the small side until both choices cost something.
- Two nice things
- A card like “pizza or tacos” takes nothing away from either side. Add the price and it wakes up: “Pizza every Friday, or a new place every month?”
- One-sided
- A card only one of you can answer stalls the round. Every card here works whoever draws it.
Couple would you rather: 48 cards, sorted by where you are
In the US 96.9% of people eat or drink on a given day, and those who do spend 1.25 hours on it. A day with any socializing or communicating in it is rarer: 30.4% (BLS, ATUS 2025, Table 1). The meal is a slot you already have; the conversation is one you have to make, so the cards are sorted by the slots that exist anyway.
Play the groups in this order the first time. The car group is the easiest to answer out loud, and the last group is the one you will still be talking about at midnight.
In the car: fun would you rather questions for couples
Cards 25 to 36 of the printed deck, the Just for Fun theme: pure imagination, zero consequences, nothing you need to hold. Good for a long drive or a checkout line.
- 25 Would you rather be able to talk to animals, or be able to speak every human language?
- 26 Would you rather have a theme song play when you walk in, or have a laugh track after every joke you make?
- 27 Would you rather always know the time without a clock, or always know which way is north?
- 28 Would you rather eat pancakes at every meal, or eat tacos at every meal?
- 29 Would you rather live without music, or live without movies?
- 30 Would you rather be famous for your handwriting, or be famous for your whistling?
- 31 Would you rather have a chef who only cooks soup, or have a driver who only plays polka?
- 32 Would you rather only be able to whisper for a day, or only be able to shout for a day?
- 33 Would you rather never feel too hot again, or never feel too cold again?
- 34 Would you rather spend one day in the past, or spend one day in the future?
- 35 Would you rather have a closet that always has the right outfit, or have a car that always finds a parking spot?
- 36 Would you rather win a TV trivia show, or win a TV talent show?
At the dinner table: the home you share
Cards 01 to 12 of the deck, the At Home theme: small choices about the place you share. Some of them end in a real plan, which is the point.
- 01 Would you rather cook every dinner together for a month, or never cook again and live on takeout?
- 02 Would you rather have a robot that does all the laundry, or have a robot that does all the dishes?
- 03 Would you rather live in a tiny cabin in the woods, or live in a big apartment downtown?
- 04 Would you rather always pick the movie, or always pick the dinner?
- 05 Would you rather fold fitted sheets for the rest of your life, or untangle phone chargers for the rest of your life?
- 06 Would you rather have a home with a pool, or have a home with a huge kitchen?
- 07 Would you rather host friends every single weekend, or have no visitors for a whole year?
- 08 Would you rather share one giant closet, or have two tiny separate closets?
- 09 Would you rather redecorate the whole home in one weekend, or change one small thing every month?
- 10 Would you rather wake up at 5 a.m. with the house to yourself, or stay up till 2 a.m. with the house to yourself?
- 11 Would you rather eat every dinner at the table, or eat every dinner on the couch?
- 12 Would you rather keep a garden you have to weed, or keep a lawn you have to mow?
When you are planning the next date
Cards 13 to 24 of the deck, the Dates and Trips theme: where you go and how you get there. Play them with a calendar open and one stops being hypothetical.
- 13 Would you rather take a road trip with no plan at all, or take a trip planned down to the minute?
- 14 Would you rather go camping for a whole week, or stay in a fancy hotel for one night?
- 15 Would you rather explore a new city on foot, or explore a new city on rented bikes?
- 16 Would you rather have a picnic in light rain, or have dinner at a loud, crowded restaurant?
- 17 Would you rather see a live comedy show, or see a live magic show?
- 18 Would you rather take a pottery class together, or take a rock climbing class together?
- 19 Would you rather spend a long weekend at the beach, or spend a long weekend in the mountains?
- 20 Would you rather go bowling on date night, or play mini golf on date night?
- 21 Would you rather fly somewhere far for three days, or drive somewhere close for ten days?
- 22 Would you rather always forget the sunscreen on trips, or always forget the toothbrush on trips?
- 23 Would you rather eat only street food on vacation, or eat only at restaurants with tablecloths?
- 24 Would you rather visit a theme park on a hot day, or visit a museum on a perfect sunny day?
Just the two of you: romantic would you rather questions
Cards 37 to 48 of the deck, the Us Two theme: playful picks about the two of you. Save them for the end of the evening, or for a video call when you are apart.
- 37 Would you rather get breakfast made for you on a Monday, or get dinner made for you on a Friday?
- 38 Would you rather relive our very first date, or skip ahead to our next vacation?
- 39 Would you rather have me plan every date this year, or take turns planning every date?
- 40 Would you rather wear matching outfits for a day out, or get matching haircuts for a month?
- 41 Would you rather swap jobs with me for a day, or swap hobbies with me for a month?
- 42 Would you rather always win our board game nights, or always be right about directions?
- 43 Would you rather get a 10-minute shoulder rub, or get a 30-minute nap, no interruptions?
- 44 Would you rather dance with me in the kitchen, or sing with me in the car?
- 45 Would you rather have our story made into a movie, or have our story made into a song?
- 46 Would you rather get a framed map of where we met, or get a scrapbook of our year?
- 47 Would you rather spend a whole day together with no phones, or spend a whole day saying yes to my ideas?
- 48 Would you rather have a date night at home every week, or have a date night out once a month?
Twelve more questions, and two blank cards to put them on
The rules page holds two blank cards, because the best question of the night is usually one of yours. Here are twelve to start from: six that go deeper than the deck, and six for the weeks when you are in different cities.
Deep would you rather questions for couples
Both sides of these cost something, so give each one a minute before you answer.
- Would you rather know now that we will move in five years, or find out the week it happens?
- Would you rather be the one who plans everything for us, or the one who is always surprised?
- Would you rather have one hour a week that is only yours, or one evening a month that is only ours?
- Would you rather talk through a disagreement the same night, or sleep on it and start again in the morning?
- Would you rather spend a year saving hard for one big thing, or spend the same year on small trips?
- Would you rather be forgiven quickly every time, or be understood slowly every time?
When you are apart: over text or on a video call
Send one a day and guess the answer before it arrives. The guess is still the game.
- Would you rather get one long voice note a day, or three short calls a week?
- Would you rather hear my whole day in detail, or see photos of it with no words at all?
- Would you rather watch the same film at the same time, or watch it apart and argue about it after?
- Would you rather count down to the next visit on a calendar we both see, or stop counting and be surprised?
- Would you rather be woken by a call from me at 3 a.m., or wait until morning for the news?
- Would you rather play a round of these over video, or keep one card a day going by text?
Write the two you liked best on the blank cards, in pen, and they join the deck for good.
Print the deck: would you rather couple edition, Letter and A4
Five pages: the rules, the cover and two blank cards on page one, then 48 cards on pages two to five. Free, no email, two styles.
Questions people ask
How often should we play?
Whenever you have ten minutes and nothing to say to each other. A round is five cards, so one deck holds about ten rounds before you have seen every question. Answers change anyway: draw card 48 again after you move house and you may hear the other option.
What if we disagree on an answer?
Disagreeing is the whole point of a good card. Rule six on the sheet says it plainly: “There are no wrong answers, only good follow-up questions.” Ask what the option your partner refused would actually cost them, then draw the next card.
Can you play would you rather over text?
Yes, and one card a day works better over text than twenty at once. Send the card, write down your guess before the answer arrives, then say what you would pick yourself. The six questions for the weeks you are apart were written for exactly that.
What if a question makes one of us uncomfortable?
Put the card under the deck and draw another one; no explanation is owed. None of the 48 cards ask about bodies, past relationships or money trouble, so an uncomfortable card usually landed on a real plan, like moving or family. That is worth a conversation later, away from the game.
Do these work as would you rather questions for your girlfriend?
Yes, and they work the same in the other direction. No card names a partner or hands out roles, so whoever draws it answers it. The Us Two group is the one written for two people who already know each other well.
Is there an app for would you rather games for couples?
Alpacto starts where the deck stops. When you both pick the same thing twice, that is a pact: a pottery class, a date night at home every week. The app holds what counts as done and what it is worth in coins, on iPhone and Android.
The thing you both picked, as a pact
The deck says it on page one: picked the same thing twice? Turn it into a pact in the Alpacto app and make it happen. A pact holds what counts as done and what it is worth in coins, and the bet about who guesses right holds a stake that stays visible until it is settled.